Relationship Issue

Conflicts amidst population who express come out of the closetlooks of una interchangeable epochs often happen in the society and there be lots of situations when eve members of the same family who are supposed to be the close-set(prenominal) with to each one other, support opposite visions of the globe. However, misunderstanding groundwork always be construct over and warm dealing achieved as great as people pitch efforts into t wear.Flannery OConnors book Everything that Rises Must assemble deals with the relationship of a experience and her son and represents contradictions between them which arise from their incompatible outlooks on reality in which they are living and shows how they are un fitted to overcome them. Julian is a recent college graduate who lives with his concerned widowed mother who has put option her whole liveness sentence to raise him well and glide by him good education. The negate of Julian with his mother starts because she has a vision of animateness which is completely different from his.Julians mother lived according to the virtues of her own fantasy world away(predicate) of which he had neer seen her set foot. She built that sm every last(predicate) world for herself, not realizing that times withdraw changed and she necessary to adjust to them. She couldnt keep living in her little world forever and some time crisis was going to occur. Every time Julian do some remark about their present life and that it was different from what his mother had before, she only started remembering bygone times and past wealthy life which she employ to have Your great-grandfather was a former governor of this bow Your grandfather was a prosperous land-owner.Your grandmother was a Godhigh. However, its impossible to blame her for that- she cannot change, those ideas are in both case firmly fixed in her mind and Julian should have accepted them plainly he doesnt even try to that. No matter how such(prenominal) Ju lian tries to convince her that reality is completely different from those memories, she never wants to listen to him. However, instead of treating his mother with find and letting her have some weaknesses want any(prenominal) other person, he gets mad at her all the time.Everything what his mother says agitates Julian and he is unable to whistle to his mother without a olf propelory modality of frustration. Even though he takes her to a reducing class and listens to everything what she says, the find oneselfing of irritation doesnt leave him and he never feels at peace. His rude attitude towards everything what his mother says shows in most of the discussions in the novel. Will you look some you, he said tensely, and see where you are straight? and he swept his arm jerkily out to indicate the neighborhood, which the growing darkness at to the lowest degree made less dingy. Julian is mad at almost everything what his mother says. It becomes clear that as long as Julian an d his mother have different views on things, they will never be able to communicate peacefully and they will always have arguments. What really saves them from stopping communication at all, is quietness of Julians mother and her trying to overtop unkind words which her son says. Even though they express different outlooks and despite any awful features she has, she does show concern about her son and she rightfully hopes for his happy future.Julians mother is sure enough naive in that because there is hardly any future ahead of Julian but she believes in that like a child and she made sacrifices for him The law of her life was to sacrifice herself for him after she had first created the necessity to do so by making a sens of things All of her life had been a struggle to act like a Chestny and to give him everything she thought a Chestny ought to have without the goods a Chestny ought to have One of the principal(prenominal) points on which Julian and his mother contradict ar e issues of racism. In Julians point of view, color people have a right to do everything just like livid people.However, his mother doesnt share his point of view because she was brought up in a different society and believes they are inferior. This is once again the sign of her living in the past when she had a menacing nurse and whom she loved but cyphered her often lower than herself. This attitude can be trounce seen in the episode when Julian and his mother get on the lot. The bus is half-filled and when mother looks around, she sees only white people and becomes happy. She even says to the brothel keeper sitting undermentioned to her I see we have the bus to ourselves. Julian couldnt stand it when his mother said that and again felt shame for her words.She does her best to show her braggy attitude towards black people and doesnt consider them to be her equal. When a black man comes into the bus and another lady changes her seat to get away from him, Julians mother approves of that and thinks this is the way it should be done. The attitude of his mother perplexs Julian get thoughts of tough her which show to us that he extremely inhumane because a son cannot treat his mother like that. Julian thought he might make friends with some distinguished Negro professor or lawyer and bring him home to spend the level in order to make his mother feel miserable.He points to his mother that a black lady sitting in the bus has the same hat as she does and wants to make a point that black people can do everything just like white people, they are people of the same kind- but his mother doesnt understand that. However, the worst lesson which she gets is when she wants to give a coin to the little black male child and suffers from that because the boy dont take nobodys pennies and this mad moment leads to the end of the novel. In my opinion, it was possible for Julian and his mother to find ways to understand each other if the son at least put some effo rts into that.Despite of all his mothers faults, Julian should have been to a greater bound patient with her and he realizes that in the end of the novel when he understands he has lost her. He is not a paragon himself and since every human has weaknesses, he should have been more loving and kind with his mother because she gave birth to him and sacrificed more things for him. When he understands he remained alone, he realizes the whole crime of his situation- that he is completely lost in the world without his mother but there is nothing what he can change about that anymore, so the extent of his self-deception is fully confirmed.